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Things you ‘should’ ask a woman
And the reasons why in case you need an explanation…
There’s a cringe-worthy catalog of questions women are used to receiving from strangers, partners, and co-workers alike. These are just some of the line and are way too intrusive questions for us women receive all day about baby plans, grooming habits, fashion choices, relations, life stile, diets, and so much more.
These asks assume women exist to be skinny, pretty, brainless and desired by men, to make babies, and to generally be sweet and non-threatening at all times. With only nice things to say, and never sarcastic, tired, overworked, or any of such things. When women do not follow these standards, society and cultural questions start coming with a vengeance.
I’ve been asked these and so many more, and there was a time I felt ashamed for not complying with everyone else’s sense of what my life should be like. And that made me feel like I was failing at life and being happy.
“Is that the look you were going for?’
Whenever the group of people around me were disapproving, or just not understanding my fashion choices, this is the first ‘’covered ‘’ question I would get. They basically would let me know I was out of line in a way or another for not being just like everyone else with regards to my clothing choices.
