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I Am an Authority in my Children’s Life, Not a Resource
It is so subtle, that hardly notice I’m being led to believe mothers are inadequate to make decisions for our children’s lives, and we are there to support predefined decisions. Decisions were taken by society, by the family structure the way it evolves day by day to be defined differently every second of the day.
We are taught a doctor is the authority on our child’s health and even do we notice that the infections they keep having are getting stronger, and are way too often we end up ignoring and looking at them with pity and annoyance because we do not have a certificate stating we have specialized in our kid’s health. A teacher is the authority on our child’s education. A pastor is the authority on our child’s spiritual walk. A government is the authority on their safety. And culture is the authority on their moral view of the world and what good and bad are, their level of morals.
These people and structures are amazing resources. Incredible amazing support systems whose expertise I am grateful to constantly seek and learn from.
But parents are the ones ultimately responsible for these children, in all aspects, they are the doctor who sees every change in their health, their moral background, their security blanket, and the list can go on.
A mother is an authority, the best one at that. Not a resource.
It’s easy to limit our role to the caretaker, driver, and…
