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Guilt in motherhood.
And how to cope with it.
This one is hard, if not the hardest. But the reasons for feeling guilty change all the time, from one hour , to the next, and from one year to the next.
As we move on and grow, it will be from the guilt of not spending enough time with our kids because we’re focused on the relationship with our partners or work, a new kind of guilt appears to shook your system.
My guilt went from forgetting my moms birthday to not knowing how to comfort my crying baby due to colic. And it moved to having doubts about everything I was doing.
I felt guilty if I didn’t pick her up immediately when she cried. Or for having to put her down so I could take a shower, clean, cook, or even sleep. For taking her to the GP’s for her immunization jabs, to not making a more organic meal.
Another worst type of guilt caught up on me by surprise(even do everyone warned me about it)) the guilt of going back to work so I could afford to give her the life she deserves.
My daughter is 2.9 years old. I am learning to cope with those feelings of guilt.
I keep telling myself that nobody is perfect, we are all fraud , that I am doing my best, that is all it matters.
It is …isn’t it???
What everyone else thinks is not important. So I am learning to take everything guilt-free. The good and the bad.
Once you become a mother, you are field with guilt for the good and the bad. No matter how strange that sounds, it’s the truth.
What’s the last thing you felt guilty about???
